“The highest form of love is to be the protector of another person’s solitude.” So said the poet, Rainer Maria Rilke.
I agree. Sort of.
Personally, I ride the line quite happily between introvert and extrovert. I never felt especially identified with either description.
I enjoy quiet solitude. Particularly since the birth of my son 3.5 years ago, I developed an acute appreciation for it. 🙂
But I also like to throw parties.
I enjoy getting to know unique, interesting people. And since my first major geographical move this year, I realize just how important making these connections are.
There are days when my insides scream for connection; when I feel a literal ache for it. I work from home, for myself (and for you, dear reader) and while this certainly liberates me, it also forces me to go out of my way to experience a social life.
Don’t get me wrong. Being an introvert certainly comes with benefits. And you should celebrate them.
An introvert tends to listen better, value introspection and make more thoughtful decisions.
But the downsides—like isolation and difficulty speaking in public–can be hard to cope with.
So for those of you who want to get out more, but can’t shake the desire to stay home in your pajamas and binge on Netflix, this spell is for you.
Introvert vs. Social Anxiety Disorder
Simple introversion generally refers to people who enjoy being alone, prefer one-on-one relationships, and are less than fond of public performance.
Most introverts function normally, maintaining relationships, jobs and hobbies.
This differs dramatically from people who suffer from a social anxiety disorder, which, by definition, impedes function.
If you fall into this latter category, I encourage you to seek out support.
I’m not saying spell craft can’t help you.
But it should never substitute a holistic, well-rounded treatment approach.
If being around other people doesn’t merely make you uncomfortable, but makes you feel terrified, that’s something that really needs attention, and I don’t want to minimize it.
That said, I think spell craft (and a healthy spiritual life in general) compliments a professional therapeutic approach.
Use all the tools at your disposal!
Things You Will Need
-about an ounce of olive oil
-a few drops of (affiliate link—>) lemon grass essential oil
-a red pillar candle
-a pen and a piece of paper
On the night of the full moon, find a dark, quiet space where you will not be disturbed.
You want the only light in the room to be candlelight and/or (if you’re outside or in a room with a window where it is visible) the light of the moon.
If you like, feel free to cast a circle any way you want.to.
Light the red candle and place it in front of the mirror so that you can see both the reflection of the flame and your own eyes.
Write down at least five affirmations about your social graces, even if they aren’t true—yet.
For example, “I always know exactly what to say” or “I love to make people laugh.”
Whatever you imagine socially active people do well, write it down as an “I” statement.
Add a few drops of lemongrass essential oil. Lemongrass emits strength, boldness and charisma.
Holding the bottle of olive oil in your hand, look into your own eyes in the mirror,
Concentrate on the reflection of the candlelight in your eyes.
Repeat each affirmation. Begin softly, and then build to a louder voice.
Extinguish the candle, close the circle and place the oil on your bathroom sink or dressing table.
Whenever you attend a social gathering where it serves you or others to “come out of your shell,” anoint your Throat Chakra.
Recharge the oil during the full moon by repeating the same ritual.
(A big thanks to the model in the feature image, the darling and very sweet Sarina Edwards, or @sarina.edwards on Instagram)